How to stay engaged and involved in your family life

“The devil is in the details.” As a minister we are responsible for a lot of details and organization. I’m not saying we are all good at it but it’s part of the job.

As my family is wrapping up the another school year and as our dance and sports schedules are heating up, a question came to mind. Am I as attention to detail in my family life as I strive to be in my ministry? Am I fully engaged in the life of my family?

In the same way, are you as particular and attention to detail with your own family and children as your are with your own ministry? If you are not, then I would venture to say you aren’t fulfilling your job as a parent and family member. And if you aren’t taking your time seriously and paying more attention to your own family you are missing a prime opportunity to leave a lasting legacy.

You ministry will change over the years, people will come and go, but as I describe in this video, you will have your family the rest of your life. You owe it to them, and you, to be fully engaged and involved. So how do you do that? What can you do to be more engaged and involved? Here are some ideas.

  • Pay attention to teacher emails and announcements. School is different today than when I was younger. All parents have a great opportunity to get up-to-date info on how your children are doing and what is ahead for the class in general. I get at least one email a week from some teachers. Pay attention to those emails.
  • Pay attention to their extra-curricular activities. Find out what is going on and be apart of this team that you don’t have to lead. Get to know the other parents – not necessarily for a “ministry opportunity” but to take an interest.
  • Be present. Get off your phone, enjoy your time with your family and your friends. You don’t have to work 24/7. As I discovered with my own kids, your kids are always looking to see if you are paying attention and watching them. They want you to see them and take nktocr of what they are doing so pay attention and be present in their activities.

We work all the time in ministry and it can be very rewarding. But we don’t have to work all the time. Take an active interest in what is going on in your family life before you look back realizing you missed some great opportunities to love and care for your own family.

So what do you think? What do you do to stay active and involved in your family life? Share below or use Twitter to share by using @tapounder when you tweet.

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Tom Pounder

A father of 4, Tom is the Online Campus Pastor as well as Social Media Director at New Life Christian Church in Chantilly, VA. He blogs, vlogs, periscopes and podcasts regularly about student and online ministry stuff. Check out his work at and on iTunes (search YMSidekick).

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